Which is why, when she asked on Friday night if we could go shopping for some more clothes, I quickly said yes-and immediately started practicing my mantra. On the fifth day of school it hit me that we went through all of that effort to find jeans she liked-and I didn’t think to buy her more than one pair! We were a week into the new school year and the only thing she wanted to wear didn’t even fit her that well. And then she wore the jeans again on the third and fourth days. The second day she wore the same jeans with a different shirt. I consider that a win, even if I had my doubts about the jeans. She was happy to be back with her friends and she was comfortable with what she was wearing. Thankfully, the first day of school was a success and the hours my daughter put into shopping for what she was going to wear paid off. But giving my daughter my unsolicited opinion is sure to lead to upset, so I try to keep quiet and remember my mantra: “Stay neutral.” But sometimes I just want to give a little helpful advice about buying things that fit properly and are comfortable. I know we need to let our kids have creative expression. For example, if youre a quiet, unassuming person, try a cute plaid skirt with a button-up. If the shoe doesn’t fit, she still might buy it-and I’m at a loss to know how to respond. Reflect some of your personality in your clothing. I want to stay supportive and encouraging, but sometimes my daughter just wants me to nod approvingly and then hand over my wallet. Did they all stay silent and only offer opinions when asked? Did they speak up, only to be met with a hysterical reaction that dragged out the shopping process? Do other parents just let their kids buy their own clothes online and stay out of it entirely? I would really like to know because I have tried all of the options and it never seems to be a happy experience. I wondered how all those other parents handled clothes shopping for school with their teens.
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